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Jul. 16th, 2007 | 12:39 pm
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Our lone twin from China
By Jane Ashley and Emily Buchanan
BBC Radio 4's China Girl


Soon after bringing this little girl home from a Chinese orphanage, her British parents proudly posted photos of her online - only for it to reveal that she has an identical twin sister, also adopted abroad.

Adoption from China is a gruelling process, which takes many years. And Wiltshire couple Jo and Charlie have found it can bring dramatic surprises.

Children in rows of cots in a Chinese orphanage
The one-child policy in parts of China means abandoned children
"People think you are just going out, there are some nice smiley children in a row, we'll have that one, we're just picking a fruit off a tree," says Charlie.

It couldn't be more different. First there is a home study by British social services. Once approved, there are mounds of paperwork to amass, which the UK government processes and forwards to the authorities in China. Finally the long wait - currently several years - to be matched with a child.

Jo works for an animal conservation charity and Charlie in the airline industry. They are what's known as "preferential adopters" - couples who, although able to have biological children, chose to adopt. "We just felt there are enough kids on the planet that aren't being loved," says Charlie.

Just over three years after they began their adoption journey, last November Jo and Charlie went to China to collect the baby they had been matched with. They called her Evie, keeping her Chinese name as a second option.

Adoptive couples don't get any information on the birth parents as abandonment is illegal in China, but Jo and Charlie often think about who they might be. "I'm endlessly curious," says Jo. "I look at her face and think 'Are those eyes her mother's?'"

And then, two months after coming home, the couple made a chance discovery that their daughter had an identical twin who had been adopted by a family who live far from the UK. Both families belong to an e-mail group for the orphanage.

"I had put some photos of Evie up there and they saw her," Jo says. "We were shocked. Having believed Evie would never know any of her blood relatives, we now have as close a blood relative as you can get."

When they were in China, the other parents had been allowed to visit the orphanage, unlike Jo and Charlie who had adopted Evie first.

Your instant reaction is she's my baby too - I want her here, but we would never dream of doing that
Jo on Evie's twin

"It dawned on us that maybe the reason we weren't allowed to go was because we would have seen the other little girl," says Charlie.

The families are now in regular contact, speaking over Skype, using webcams and e-mail, and sending each other DVDs.

When she sees photos of Evie's twin, Jo is torn. "Your instant reaction is she's my baby too. I want her here. And we would never dream of doing that. Neither family ever thought we should reunite them permanently. They are both settled and very happy. But I went through a stage of being really wobbly about it. She's a part of Evie and Evie is a part of her sister."

She hopes the two families might meet up when the children are older, possibly back in China. "I'd personally like the girls to be able to understand it and remember their first meeting."

And there might, after all, be a trail to Evie's birth parents. In China, identical twins are thought very special indeed and Jo and Charlie think someone would have known about them.

"It's unusual for kids from China to be able to go back and do that," says Charlie "Some of these kids grow up with a hole inside them because a part isn't there, part of the story that forever will be missing. I genuinely believe that Evie and her sister have this chance that isn't offered to many kids who are adopted from China. Whether she takes it up is her option, but at least that option is there."

More than ever, the birth parents are on the couple's mind. They would love to be able to let them know that their daughters have found each other.

"They must occasionally wonder what happened to their two girls and it would be fantastic if we could at some point reassure them that their kids were being looked after. They are so loved," says Charlie.

China Girl is broadcast in the UK on BBC Radio 4 on 16 and 23 July at 1100 BST, then online for seven days on Radio 4's Listen again page.



Child and prejudice
By Richard Allen Greene
BBC News



Emily Buchanan found herself without a ready reply on one of her first trips to a local playground with her newly-adopted daughter, Jade.

"Is her father Chinese?" another mother asked as she pushed her own toddler on a swing alongside Buchanan and Jade.

As a BBC world affairs correspondent, she isn't usually at a loss for words. "I paused, not prepared for this obvious question," Buchanan recounts in From China With Love, her book about adopting Jade and Rose.

"Er, yes, kind of..." was the answer that came out, as her brain cycled through better possible replies: "Yes," or "Yes, and we've adopted her from China," or "No, her father's British," or even the spiky "Why do you need to know?"

The question, even if it was prompted by entirely innocent curiosity, was more evidence for Buchanan's growing sense that in Britain, adoption is seen as second-best - and overseas adoption even worse than that, perhaps even criminal.

Buchanan admits there are genuine fears about the market for babies for international adoption - she herself reported on underhand methods of obtaining babies in Paraguay.

But she also feels the British media over-emphasise the negative aspects of a process which she says is successful much more often than not.

"The overwhelming majority of overseas adoptions are fine - whereas one in five domestic adoptions fail," she says.

Buchanan found barriers to international adoption not only in the press and society, but even, in some ways, in the government bureaucracy designed to facilitate it.

We're all supposed to be multi-cultural, all mixing in some great melting pot - but not in families
Emily Buchanan

The UK government tightened rules on international adoption in the wake of the high-profile case involving Alan and Judith Kilshaw. Social services intervened in this 2001 internet adoption case, where the north Wales couple had sought to adopt twins from the United States.

Buchanan agrees there must be laws in place to protect children and prospective adoptive parents, but also fears there are less savoury forces at work.

"There is an inverted racism in the social services, a preference for children to match the race of their parents," she says.

"We're all supposed to be multi-cultural, all mixing in some great melting pot - but not in families. It doesn't feel right, it doesn't look right. It looks odd.

"Part of why I wanted to write the book is to say I'm not ashamed of it. This is the way the world works now."

"Adoption per se is so much more accepted there," she says, partly because Christian conservatives would prefer young women to give babies up for adoption rather than have an abortion, and partly because of the American "that's all cool" attitude to unconventional families.

Also, she argues, the United States does not suffer from post-imperial guilt the way Britain does, and so it has a different perspective on children brought to the country from less-developed nations.

"They're going to become Americans - how great for them," is how Buchanan characterises it.

Despite the wary attitude towards adoption of Chinese girls, Buchanan has no doubt there is currently a need for it. Both because of China's policy of families only having one child and because of a centuries-old preference for boys who will care for their parents later in life, Chinese baby girls are regularly abandoned or even killed at birth.

The Chinese government is officially trying to change attitudes towards baby girls, but progress, if any, will be slow, Buchanan says.

In the meantime, international adoption of unwanted girls solves a small part of the problem.

"At the end of the day, they have a family," she says. "At least they have a home."

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